Having a second baby can trigger a variety of feelings for parents. Feelings of joy, excitement, but also anxiety, fear, and overwhelm.
When we discovered we were expecting our second baby, we were overjoyed, and really couldn’t wait to meet him. We hadn’t truly considered the level of adjustment that would take place for everyone once he arrived. We figured that since we’d already had one baby, and knew how to keep her alive, we’d be experienced parents having another. Everyone raved about how wonderful it was to have children close in age, how they’d play together and grow up friends. We couldn’t wait to see how our babies interacted with each other and were thrilled with the anticipation of watching their relationship form and develop.
Not too many stories were shared about the adjustment period that takes place before all that wonder though. “Two is company” is as true an adage as it is old. But when you’re contending with toddlers and newborns, the
Can you share with our readers a little about your family? Where are you from originally? How did you and your partner meet and end up living in Griswold, CT?
David and I were both born in raised in Lincoln, Nebraska. We met in 7th grade math class! After going our separate ways in high school, our friendship was rekindled in college. After getting married in 2018, we made the decision to pack up and move to New England just for the adventure. We settled down in our tiny bungalow and started growing our family.
How did you break the news to your partner that you were expecting a baby?
For our first, David opened the oven to find a bun. It took him a moment to connect the dots, and then we celebrated! Our second came as a wonderful surprise. With the chaos of a 10 month old, there was no grand reveal. We just stood together in the bathroom and marveled at our positive pregnancy test.
How did you break the news to family and friends that you were expecting?
With family being so far away (everyone is back in Nebraska), we announced to them over FaceTime.
What was your pregnancy with baby like? Did you suffer from any morning sickness? Have any strange cravings?
I found this pregnancy to be much more difficult than my first. Nausea and vomiting continued well into the second trimester. I struggled with quite a bit of pelvic girdle pain, which made playing with my toddler very challenging. I worked as a nightshift nurse at a hospital an hour away from home. The long shifts and driving definitely added to the fatigue of pregnancy. I’m sure we will look back one day and wonder how we did it all! But what a blessing it is to be pregnant!
Did you do a gender reveal? Find out the sex during pregnancy? Or at birth? What was your first thought when you found out the sex of your baby?
We sent in a Sneak Peek at 6 weeks, which came back “girl.” We opened the link together at home and shared the news with our family over FaceTime. We confirmed with NIPT at 10 weeks and celebrated the healthy pregnancy!
Which part of your pregnancy did you enjoy the most? And the least?
The hardest part of this pregnancy was the pelvic girdle pain and sciatica, especially at work. The most enjoyable part of this pregnancy was feeling her movements and sharing that with David.
What made you decide to follow your specific birth plan?
Because of complications I had at the end of the pregnancy, my only “plan” was to have a safe delivery and a healthy baby.
What was your birth experience like?
Our toddler brought home a stomach bug and a cold during the week of our induction. I was pretty sick and we ended up postponing the induction 12 hours so I could build up my strength. The induction itself ran so smoothly! After cervidil, we were able to break my water and she was born 2 and a half hours later!
What’s been the grossest thing you’ve experienced since becoming parents?
Definitely being projectile pooped on during diaper changes!
What’s the sweetest, most memorable moment of parenthood for you so far?
Watching my son love on his new best friend, his sister.
What feelings came up during your pregnancy about your baby?
Gratitude that my body was able to bring another life into our growing family. Fear of repeat complications I had with our first pregnancy. Anxiety about appointments and blood pressure checks. Excitement over the newness and unknowns of caring for a daughter. A deep love for my unborn child, which felt so different during the pregnancy after experiencing parenthood with our first baby. I could anticipate the emotions I would feel again during birth and those first few weeks with a newborn.
What were you most looking forward to about the arrival of your new baby?
Watching our children learn what it means to have a sibling – a built in best friend!
How are you feeling about returning to work once your maternity leave is up? If your partner received any leave from work, how are they feeling about returning?
I’m grateful to have extended maternity leave that I didn’t have with my first. I’m soaking up every moment that I have with my family because I know how quickly this time passes. I’m sure I will feel some sadness when I return to work, but I know we will get into the groove of our new routine and it will feel natural. David was able to take 2 weeks off of work. It was hard on him to have to go back after bonding with our daughter. The blessing is that he is working from home, something he didn’t get to do with our first baby. So he has lots of opportunities to love on his kids throughout his workday.
What tips or advice would you give other parents as they experience their first few weeks of parenting and welcoming their newborn into their family?
Work together. Remind each other often how strong you are and how appreciative you are. Take time for yourself, but also remember to find time to connect with your partner. Treasure every moment, even the challenging ones, because as long as the days can feel, the weeks will fly by.
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